Posts Tagged ‘patience’
Are you in survival mode or beyond?
If you step back and look at your finances, you will find that you are in one of three stages of financial being.
The first stage is “survival mode”. This is where you are just barely getting by. There is just enough cash flow to put a roof over your head, food on the table, gas in the car. But very little room for anything else. This is a dangerous place to be as any life event – big or small – can tip the scales and start you on a downward spiral. Credit is often used as a crutch, with the best of intentions, to balance out the budget.
The next stage is the “breathing room” stage. You are here if you have enough cash flow (not including credit) to survive and to deal with things as they come up. If the car breaks down, you can get it fixed. Maybe not right away, or it may set you back and you will have to adjust to catch up. Credit can be used as a safety net but caution should be stressed to keep the credit use at a minimum and ensure you can manage the payments comfortably.
The third stage, which is where we all strive to be, is the “comfort zone”. In this stage you are surviving, you can deal with irregular expenses as they come up, and you have the flexibility to do some or all of the things you want. Often times, credit is used to “enhance” this position. A dangerous game. You should proceed with caution.
So, what stage are you in? Where do you strive to be? The first step is AWARENESS. The second step is ACTION!
It’s been six long months and my hands are cleaner than ever. Who would have thought I would make it this far?
I am referring to life without a dishwasher. Around mid-December, ours broke. My first reaction was sheer terror. I’m pretty sure I almost lost consciousness. Like many families struggling to make ends meet, I didn’t have any savings to buy another. The word credit kept flashing in my mind, but we were just managing what we had. I took a deep breath, pulled up my rubber gloves, and started washing.
It wasn’t so bad. “Not much more work then rinsing the dishes, loading and unloading the dishwasher”, I thought. Day 2! – It occurred to me that growing up we never had a dishwasher, we, gasp, washed and dried them – by hand. I then had a BFO (blinding flash of the obvious!). My gosh, we are raising a generation of kids who never have to wash dishes. Visions of power failures and piles of dirty dishes flashed by. I decided to start operation “Dishpan Kids”. I asked, in a way that made it sound incredibly exciting, “Who wants to learn how to wash dishes?”. It was fun. The family doing dishes together. What a concept.
I will admit, I had some setbacks. Entertaining guests poses some additional challenges (clean-up takes slighly longer than loading the dishwaher) and some surprises (during our last get-together, the guys did the dishes while the girls played cards…hmmmm…). A month or so after we began “Operation Dishpan Kids” I found out that the dishwasher actually was not broken. It’s something under the sink (that’s as intelligent as I get on that subject). It will probably take an hour and 20 bucks to fix. But you know what? I’m ok. I think I can go without. In fact, I kind of like it. I enjoy watching my family share in the responsibility and I have a really great two-level dish rack to dry my dishes on. 
I, like many others, jumped on “The Secret” bandwagon. I watched the movie and began incorporating the process into my life. It wasn’t that difficult, I’m generally a positive thinker . A few years ago, my friend gave me “The Secret” calendar with a thought for each day. There is one that particularily caught my interest. It was about money. And for the past decade or so, money, or lack thereof, had been an issue for me and my family. The thought went like this…
Give me three good reasons why you need more than one credit card. I dare you!
Notice I said three? I was going to say one but there may be one or two like “a place I deal with does not accept visa”, or “I used different cards for points, air miles, etc.”.
If you do not carry a balance on your cards, I will grant you immunity on the question. If, however, you have more than one card and at least one is maxed out or close to it, the answer is NEVER!
Seriously, why do you have more than one? The likely answer is (although I’m sure many won’t admit it) “so I can spend more money than I earn”. The intentions might be good (buy necessities, pay for the kids sports, buy gifts) but the results are the same (if you consistently spend more than you earn, you will eventually hit a financial brick wall, and your finances will crash). This might mean something as drastic as losing a home or something less severe like paying for a decade or more for living above your means for a few years.
Solution: down size your credit. If you carry a balance on more than one credit card start working on eliminating all but one. Some methods include: paying the higher interest credit one first, move balances to a lower-interest card, consolidate and vow not to use anymore credit until the loan is paid.
I think credit should come with the above warning. We tend to be overly-optimistic when it comes to using credit. The warning signs are easy to recognize.
- we can afford that loan because I’m getting a raise
- let’s take advantage of that great no-payment-no-interest deal and use our income tax refund to pay it off
- I will buy that living room set on credit and cut back for the next six months and pay it off
The justifications may differ but the results are often the same. Great Intentions lead to less than great outcomes.
- the raise didn’t come through. Worse yet, you were laid off
- your tax refund was half of what you expected
- cutting back was impossible! There was a wedding, the car broke down, etc. Etc.
The diagnosis! – don’t plan future credit commitments on possibilities. Pop a patience pill and make the purchase when the money comes in.